Top Tips for Success
at a Cannabis Singles Event
On Saturday, January 28th, I attended the Orange County Singles Speakeasy , a Cannabis singles event hosted by Molly Peckler, cannabis dating coach and founder of Highly Devoted Coaching. She has hosted successful events in Denver and Los Angeles and this time she brought her passion and magic to Huntington Beach. This was my first time going to a cannabis-focused singles event. Most of my singles mixer experiences up to this point have involved copious amounts of alcohol (when I used to drink) and some very awkward speed dating. This event was completely unlike anything I’ve attended before. It was sophisticated and thoughtful. There was a curated selection of cannabis products for attendees to enjoy and even a non-psychoactive infused mocktails from Hummingbird Medicinals. Beer outside for those who were interested, but I noticed that most people weren’t drinking. Kurvana offered a vape bar and hosted a raffle (I won!) and there was even an artist, Dave Van Patten, doing cannabis themed caricatures.
Here are some tips for success if you happen to find yourself at one of Molly’s singles events
I cannot emphasize this strongly enough. Having dry mouth can make it really challenging to have a conversation. I appreciated that the event was well stocked with a large glass cooler of citrus water and several cases of bottled water were ready behind the bar. Even with plenty of water available, I still had to remind myself two different times to drink more, most notably when my tongue momentarily stuck to the roof of my mouth mid-sentence. Luckily, we both laughed and used it as an excuse to hit the water bar together.
I know there are a lot of introverts in the world and social interactions can feel overwhelming. One of the great things about cannabis is that it can help alleviate some of the social anxiety that people experience. Take advantage of being in a cannabis friendly space and use a nice 1:1 product to help you relax and focus. Then go introduce yourself to someone new and ask what cannabis product they’re enjoying. You could even lead with something vulnerable like, “Sometimes I feel anxious in these situations but this AC/DC pen is really helping a lot! How’s the evening going so far for you?”
I cannot tell you how many people asked me, “so what are you hoping to find here?” Many of them were surprised when I actually had an answer ready. “I’m looking for a primary relationship with someone who is comfortable with non-monogamy.”
Operate from a mindset of abundance, not scarcity.
There are a lot of brilliant, engaging, cannabis friendly humans in the world. There will always be more people to meet and more experiences to have. Don’t let fear of being alone force you to settle for the first thing that comes along. Don’t let the fear of “messing it up” prevent you from approaching at all. Give it a shot, accept a “no” graciously, and move on to the next.
Know what you’re looking for when you arrive.
I cannot tell you how many people asked me, “so what are you hoping to find here?” Many of them were surprised when I actually had an answer ready. “I’m looking for a primary relationship with someone who is comfortable with non-monogamy.” Yes, I had to go back and define some of those terms for folks who were unfamiliar, but it was nice to have something clear that rolled off the tongue. I’m not looking for a casual hookup. I’m not looking for another secondary relationship. When you know what you want (and ask for it) you allow people the opportunity to give it to you.
Have you been to any cannabis-friendly singles events? What was it like for you?