“Marijuana Mom” two words that don’t typically go together unless you’re a teenager terrified that you’re about to be caught with a joint. The idea of a mom consuming is something that just doesn’t compute, or if it does, it’s something she did in her “wild yester years.”
Now, there’s a growing group of marijuana moms who not only consume, but are also advocates for cannabis. These moms believe in the medicinal benefits of marijuana for things like PTSD, depression, and pain, and they believe that consuming doesn’t make them a worse parent. In fact, it makes them better.
That’s especially the case for Kaycee Cuesta, a mom of four and the creator of The Cannavist Mom blog, and Amanda Snider, a mom of three and medical marijuana patient. Both Kaycee and Amanda use marijuana daily, whether smoking or dabbing, but that hasn’t affected their ability to parent.
“I strongly believe that I’m a better parent because I consume marijuana over prescribed drugs for my fibromyalgia,” said Amanda. “I experience far fewer side effects now than when I took prescriptions, which makes me more capable of parenting.”
And the same goes for Kaycee who uses marijuana recreationally as well as for pain management. While in her younger years she thought that cannabis was the “devil’s lettuce,” after the age of 24, it didn’t take her long to discover she was completely misguided about cannabis and that it was exactly what she needed.
“Before marijuana, I relied on narcotics to treat my migraines and problems with my reproductive system,” explained Kaycee. “Don’t get me wrong, they helped the pain, but I became dependent on them, and that meant losing sleep at night and other problems. What mom can function through pain and no sleep? Marijuana changed that for me.”
Still, it hasn’t always been an easy road. Being a mom who uses marijuana comes with some challenges, especially when it comes to kids. For Amanda’s two toddlers, ages three and four, she hasn’t had to worry about explaining cannabis to them yet. However, her twelve-year-old is more than old enough and she’s had to explain that she uses it as medication and not in an illegal way.
“My son is aware of the difference between use and abuse,” said Amanda, who keeps her marijuana medication under lock and key, along with any paraphernalia. “I also smoke outdoors or in a well ventilated area, not near my children.”
Kaycee, who has four kids under the age of eleven, is in a similar situation. For her three youngest, marijuana is just another word for “mommy’s medicine,” but for the ten-year-old, Kaycee has had to go into more depth, especially since her daughter is receiving conflicting messages at school.
“My ten year old has gone through DARE at school, but we’ve also made sure that she has sat and watched full marijuana documentaries with her father and I,” said Kaycee. “She’s had to learn that not everyone see’s marijuana the same way. I think it’s a bit hard for her.”
It can be especially hard when it comes to friends, family, and other parents. The reality for marijuana moms is that they can be on the receiving end of a wide range of responses from acceptance to outright disdain. For Kaycee, “Dealing with other parents… Well, that has been a doozy. My daughter lost a friend because I’m an open cannabis user.”
Still, that hasn’t stopped either Kaycee or Amanda from using and it wouldn’t even stop them from giving cannabis to their children if they needed it.
“None of my children need medical marijuana, but I am grateful that if the need did arise that it’s available,” said Amanda
“In the event that my children needed marijuana, I wouldn’t wait a second,” Kaycee stated. “I’m a firm believer in what this plant can do. I’ve seen it help Landon Riddle beat Leukemia at three years old, and help teenager Coltyn Turner beat Crohn’s. Thanks to cannabis, many children have a better quality of life.”
So, what would Kaycee and Amanda say to other moms who aren’t as open about marijuana?
“It’s important to end the shaming and stigma because so many people benefit in so many ways from this plant,” said Amanda. “We should all embrace it; the pros far outweigh the cons.”
“People need to know that there is an alternative to the narcotics that might not even work for them,” Kaycee said. “I think, ‘Mommy needs a hit of cannabis should be just as socially acceptable as mommy needs a glass of wine!’”
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