A Clear-headed Alternative
A few weeks ago, I conducted an entirely unscientific survey on my Facebook page, asking folks what was holding them back from incorporating cannabis into their sex lives. One of the most commons responses was some variation of: “I don’t want to get high because I don’t want to feel out of control.” It occurred to me that a lot of people may be unaware of non-psychoactive methods of using cannabis. One of the best, especially for sexy fun times, is massage using infused topicals. It’s a great way to get in the mood or even unwind after a frenzied encounter. Massage itself has numerous benefits especially the reduction of stress, pain, and muscle tension as well as the production of oxytocin. The best part is this can be a solo or partnered activity! It’s also great for folks who experience chronic pain, as cannabinoids have been found to reduce pain and discomfort.
Topicals are an excellent choice for folks looking to avoid psychoactive effects. If you live in a medical or recreational state, you’ll have access to THC and CBD infused massage oils. If you don’t, you’ll have to make due with hemp-derived CBD infused products available on the internet or in stores near you.
Here are some tips for incorporating a cannabis-infused massage into your personal toolbox:
- Use high quality, ethically sourced products. I’m really into Apothecanna’s line of topicals and they offer a calming massage oil which features a medium-weight avocado oil base and includes lavender, chamomile and frankincense essential oils. They also offer extra strength lotions and oils for folks with more intense pain. My favorite thing is that each product is made with hemp-derived CBD so they can be ordered through the website.
- Use wide, flat parts of your body for massage rather than just your fingers. Your fingers will fatigue quickly, but your palms and forearms have a lot more stamina. Also consider using your elbow for tough spots instead of your thumbs.
- Focus on areas that tend to get sore during sexy genital activities: hips, butt, thighs and lower back. One of the sweetest things a lover ever did for me was give me a massage after we’d just had sex for a couple of hours. My body was sore from our efforts and a massage made me feel cared for and super relaxed before snuggling.
- Communicate! If you’re giving, begin the massage by calibrating your pressure. Basically, start with light touch and allow the receiver tell you to increase pressure until they reach the upper limit of their pressure preferences. Do this each time you’re giving, because the receiver may have different preferences based on different parts of the body, their mood and needs on that particular day. If you’re receiving, ask for what you want. If you want more time on a specific area or if you want any specific areas to be skipped entirely, that’s very helpful information for the giver to have!
- Create a feast for your senses: put on soothing music and, if you’re feeling inclined, light some incense or a candle with a scent you enjoy. I once had a massage therapist rub lavender essential oil between her palms and had me take three deep breaths of it before she started. It worked like a charm and to this day I keep lavender oil nearby if I’m going to be giving or receiving a massage.
As always, hydrate! This is important for both the giver and receiver.
What are your best massage tips? Have you ever given or received a cannabis-infused massage?